Reason #1... This was supposed to be a time when I would be the one raising Sofie and just enjoy her all to myself. Instead my mother in law will take over child care duties 20+ hrs a week. I'm very grateful not only because she will be in great hands but she is not charging me as much as a daycare would. Still I feel that guilty feeling in my heart. I am starting to think I am going to miss out on new words she will say. Teaching her Spanish is very important to us, and so far she understands it and speaks a few words too. My MIL does not speak spanish which is a bit of concern of mine, but she has asked that I make flash cards for her so she can at least say a few phrases to Sofia while she is in her care. That makes me feel a little less guilty about my going back to work but the guilt is still there.
Reason #2... At the beginning of this year Luke and I were discussing trying for a second child. I was starting to go back to acupuncture and exercising to loose a few pounds and become healthy. I even started getting giddy when I would look at the newborn clothes at the store. This however will have to change due to my going back to work. I know if I were to get pregnant now and I just started working again there really is nothing they can do about it. However, the workaholic in me would like to prove myself and just focus on work for about 6mths then try to get pregnant. My brain says this is the LOGICAL choice but my heart? My heart screams SCREW LOGIC. A big reason is I will be turning 35 this year and due to my Latin upbringing I keep thinking I need to have another baby soon. I know how stupid right? I have made friends with some wonderful women who just had their first child at 39 or 40 and are trying to get pregnant again or are pregnant. So, why does it bother me so much? I have to blame my aunts and mom on this one. We have been getting asked the dreaded questions "so when are you going to have another baby? Don't you want a big family?" when Sofia was just 9mths old. Yes I want another baby, but not a big family. I would love to have 3 children but I think 2 would be just fine for us. I hate that infertility caused years to go by until I was in my 30's to have Sofia. But recently in talking to a friend of mine who is 40 and trying for baby #2, it started to dawn on me...it's not too late. I don't know if it will take another few years for baby #2 but I am holding on to hope that it will not and who knows we might be a family of 5 by the time I hit 40. Either way for now I have to find a way to be ok with the decision to put a few things on hold for now.